I have heard people say that the "magic" of a relationship dies after marriage. I think I've actually seen it in some married couples. I have no idea why this phenomenon occurs, but I have my own theories about it. Some people may feel that they are married and that there's nothing after that... well maybe death, I guess. Others may feel that routine and monotony create a dry environment void of laughter and fun. I could think of some others, but the general idea is that this rarity does not happen naturally. It is in fact a man (or woman) made condition.

I feel that a pretty common change takes place within relationships after a while. By after a while, I'm not specifying any particular length of time. I think it varies with each unique couple. One person in the relationship (or both!) begins to take the other person, and the relationship in general, for granted. The normalcy of the relationship begins to set in and the feeling that the other will be there tomorrow is taken for granted... it is forgotten that it is the other person's decision to be there. At some point, the guy or girl forgets that their significant other could *not* be there tomorrow. The "Honeymoon Stage" is over.

Google that shit; it's true. This happens all the time. Please, do not despair! I believe that this can be combated. There is a way to fight back against the tides of monotony and routine. Here's how:

Just don't let it end.

Easier said than done, you might say. Well I agree with you! I would say that it takes concious effort but is it worth it? The question was rhetorical. A lifetime of happiness is priceless. A simple piece of advice: Make sure that your partner knows how special they are every day. Surprise them... and with that said:

I have known Tammy for quite some time. Yes, when we met she was dating my best friend... trust me, I think it is funny too. We stopped talking a while back and the only means of keeping up with her was through Facebook or here. When she randomly IM'd me back in July, I was honestly surprised because we hadn't talked on IM in years. I'm amazed she was still on my list. We talked a lot on IM and when she moved back I was hesitant to hang out with her because of how much I felt she had changed... but she's still the girl I knew. Her head is still just as big as *ever*.

I bet some people think that things happened fast... but really they didn't. This was 9 years in the making people! We didn't kiss for 9 YEARS. I can't recall how many times we hung out, but apparently (I found this out much later) she liked me soooooooo much from the beginning. She just didn't want to say anything and then I didn't want to say anything. She says I was stupid, I say she was stupid. I didn't feel like I was good enough for her but then one night I asked her to come watch movies at my apartment and she did... and we had t his awesome awkward moment right as she left where we hugged and we both wanted to kiss, but we didn't. Yeah, it was great.

She makes me happy. We spend most of our time together laughing; I mean we fight, don't get me wrong. Hell, we had a fight today. She's mad at me right now in fact. She's mad because I won't tell her what I'm doing... fancy that. She's mad at me because I'm writing something to her in her own blog as a surprise. There is a song that really expresses how I feel:

Find Me Here
Speak To Me
I want to feel you
I need to hear you

You are the light
That's leading me
To the place where I find peace again.

You are the strength, that keeps me walking.
You are the hope, that keeps me trusting.
You are the light to my soul.
You are my purpose...you're everything.

How can I stand here with you and not be moved by you?
Would you tell me how could it be any better than this?

You calm the storms, and you give me rest.
You hold me in your hands, you won't let me fall.
You steal my heart, and you take my breath away.
Would you take me in? Take me deeper now?

How can I stand here with you and not be moved by you?
Would you tell me how could it be any better than this?
And how can I stand here with you and not be moved by you?
Would you tell me how could it be any better than this?

Cause you're all I want, you're all I need
You're everything, everything
You're all I want, you're all I need
You're everything, everything.
You're all I want, you're all I need.
You're everything, everything
You're all I want you're all I need.
You're everything, everything.